I am a great believer in the importance of loving yourself – because when you do, you naturally allow the best things into your life. And, you also naturally do the most good not only for yourself, but also for others. It’s a good thing.
I’ll often ask folks to close their eyes and, perhaps imagining themselves standing in front of a mirror, say, “I love myself.” Then I ask them to rate how true that feels on a scale of 0-10.
Go ahead and do that now.
So… how true does that statement feel…?
Of course, as they say, “the proof is in the pudding.”
(The actual proverb is, “the proof of the pudding is in the eating,” but that’s rarely what they say.)
Anyhow, do your actions correspond to your feeling? If you felt you love yourself at an 8, would you say that your self-care is also at an 8? Does your behavior reflect how much you care about yourself, or does it tell a different story?
With apologies to Elizabeth Barrett Browning, “How do I love me? Let me count the ways. I love me … er… umm… now, let’s see…”
I’d suggest that your behavior may be an even more accurate gauge of your true feelings about yourselves. As they say, “actions speak louder than words.” (They do say a lot of things, don’t they.)
I remember hearing Zig Ziglar ask something along the lines of:
“If you owned a racehorse valued in excess of a quarter of a million dollars, would you let it stay up all night eating junk food, smoking cigarettes and watching TV…?
How about a $10 dog? $5 cat…?
How about a billion dollar human body…?”
So… what does your behavior say about how you value yourself?
When I started out as an actor, my aunt (a professional actress herself) said, “Your body is the tool of your trade – keep it in top condition.”
No matter what business you are in, no matter what you do, your body is the vehicle within which you operate. How’s your maintenance plan?
And the fact is, self-care is pretty universal in our lives. If we are cheating ourselves in terms of how we take care of our bodies, we are probably cheating ourselves in many other areas, too. It’s been suggested that how we do anything is how we do everything…
Now, this is not intended to shame you in the least. You have been doing the best you could given your programming. You may not have been taught proper self-care as you were growing up. Even parents with the best of intentions may not be experts in things like proper nutrition. But no need to place blame. I’m bringing this issue up so that you take notice of it, and create an opening to make a positive change. Perhaps you’ve manifested this message as a reminder…
What unhealthy habitual behavior are you continuing to engage in, either ignoring the consequences, or rationalizing (rationalize = rational lies) why there’s no need for adjustment?
This past week, I took myself to task on this, really making the choice to be rigorous about not doing harm to myself in the subtle ways I use to excuse as “no big deal.” Rather than just saying I loved myself, and trying to get others to do the same, I committed to “putting my money where my mouth was,” as they also say. I really stepped up how I treat myself – letting go of some less-than-healthy habits, and taking on healthier habits. I started exhibiting more self-love that my body could appreciate.
Naturally, this involved some tapping. I had been doing the best I could given certain unconscious programs. I cleared some things that were blocking greater self-care. I’m not even really sure what all of them might have been. I tapped on, “I choose to treat myself better” and words to that effect, and just allowed whatever came up about that – like questions of deserving – and started releasing outdated ideas that no longer served me.
Simply making the decision to do so has been remarkable. I’ve exercised early each morning, and found it easier to start. I’ve noticed I’m drinking a lot more water. And I have had little or no interest in sweets. It feels really good.
And the results have not just been physical. I’ve seen positive shifts in other areas – including increased financial abundance coming in from unexpected areas. Sweet!
Of course, this makes sense. The Universe notices whether I believe I am worthy of my own positive action. How often, in our proclamations of things we wish to manifest, are we asking the Universe to treat us better than we are willing to treat ourselves…?
“God helps those who help themselves,” as they… well, you know.
Just for fun, I’m going to shift the earlier proverb to make an analogy, and say, “the proof is in the putting.”
Let’s say having great physical health was like having a great golf score.
Are the shots you are taking demonstrating this?
And then, when the ball rolls off the green and into a sand trap (or, in the case of not hitting it, just stays where it is) maybe you curse and insist visualizing doesn’t work…?
Visualizing is a powerful and important part of manifesting our desires. But as you may have heard – or noticed – the last six letters of Attraction spell Action.
Now, I’m not saying that in all areas of life every shot has to be done as perfectly as possible. Depending on your situation, you may allow yourself some indulgences. The golfer whose score is already really low may choose to have fun and try putting with his eyes closed for one stroke. (I can imagine some diehard golfers gasping at the thought…) Likewise, if you are taking good care of yourself physically, you may choose to treat yourself to dessert now and then. If you are honest with yourself, you’ll know where you need zero-tolerance, and where there’s wiggle room while still displaying self-care. Sometimes those treats are a way we show we love ourselves – we just need to be careful we don’t kid ourselves.
Love yourself enough to do your part to bring good things into your life.
Commit to taking action that demonstrates how much you love yourself. Let your behavior show that you value yourself.
You are worth it… but nuthin’!
On a final note, please know that this self-care isn’t selfish. The better you take care of yourself, the better able you are to be of service to others.
And, how we treat ourselves is probably a reflection of how we treat others. If we are mistreating ourselves, we may not be providing as much service to others as we’d like to think. Since we are all connected, how we treat ourselves does affect others (and how we treat them affects us).
If there are people who benefit from what you do (and there are… more than you know…) treat them with love by making sure you are able to keep doing it for a long time to come.
Knowing that I benefit from the good you do – at least on a global energetic level if not more directly – I THANK YOU for taking care of yourself.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves – regret for the past and fear of the future.” ~ fulton oursler